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Buying Your First Vibrator: A Beginner’s Guide
Vibrators have long been considered seedy. To make it worse, the places that they were sold in were often considered even seedier. Thanks, in part, to national publicity through TV shows such as Sex and the City, and the feminist approach to sex-positivity, the industry is now overhauling itself. This has been led by women such as Susan Colvin, founder and CEO of California Exotics who started her sex toy company on the foundation that pleasure products could be made, better. The Adult Store Industry has picked up on this shift and has there has been a global recognition that stores and their products need to change the way they market their toys. At long last, the industry is cleaning up its act.
Before this time, it would require you, your spouse or a friend, and dark sunglasses to go to the nearest adult shop, which could often cause much embarrassment in the event that you saw someone that you knew. In addition to this, many of these stores would be geared towards the sexual pleasure of men and often specialize in selling porn DVDs, magazines and masturbators. They did not concentrate too much on the adult toy market for women. Sex toys for women and ladies, was considered to be more of a sideline than a capital adventure.
Time have changed. Walls are filled with objects designed for and by women.These days, people will visit stores on their way home from work, girls nights out, as after dinner fun and entertainment, or simply because they need to spice it up. As the internet grew and the idea of anonymity and free porn became available most adult shops have now revamped and catered more for the sex toy market creating upscale boutiques and stores that are now clean, inviting to walk in and not ‘seedy’ as in times past. Some great stores that really cater for couples and women in Australia are the Oh Zone Stores in Sydney and Hello Sexy in the ACT. These stores are clean, dust free and have thousands of products on hand and the customer care staff are trained and knowledgeable in all things adult product related. These outlets offer unique shopping experiences that are unparalleled even by standards of luxury.
There are now literally tens of thousands of different vibrators for women making it an almost guaranteed positive result if you do a bit of research to find that perfect sex toy for you. Best of all now with the internet you can price online and if you do not require personal assistance with your purchase can have your vibrator delivered to your door in discrete packaging without you ever having to leave the comfort of your home or walk into a shop.
Dildo Or Vibrator?
The difference between a vibrator and a dildo is fairly simple. A dildo is a more phallic and obvious representation of the penis. In most cases a dildo is made out of rubber, silicone, or some other flesh like material and moulded after the specific shape of a penis. Some dildos inflate and increase their size, and others might vibrate. Vibrators, whilst still sometimes phallic, do not look at all like a penis, and they can also come in a range of shapes, colours, styles and materials. Both vibrators and dildos can vibrate.
From that point the decision is yours. Some people prefer the more realistic aspect of a dildo, because it more closely represents the penis and they can rationalise sexual activity with it because of the resemblance. Other people do not want their sex toys to look like penises because they feel as if they are cheating themselves out of a relationship or in a relationship. Some male partners will express displeasure at the introduction of a dildo because they can feel inadequate in comparison to something so similar to their own penis, yet they will be perfectly content with a vibrator.
From there, buying a dildo is easy. You need to consider the size, and the shape of the style that you are after as well as the material of the dildo. Dildos come in a variety of materials with different sensations, so if you’re looking for something soft, hard or anything in between, you’ll be sure to find it.
What To Consider When Buying A Vibrator
Remember it is all about your own personal choice and what you like. Just because your girlfriend likes to use a particular toy when watching hardcore gay sex, doesn’t mean that you should do the exact same thing. What works or ‘fits’ for one may not for another. It may take you a few different vibrators before you find the exact vibrator for you and in that regard we often recommend that you buy a vibrator kit that will have a variety of different vibrator types. When you find the one that is the closest fit for you then you can invest in a high quality vibrator in a similar style that will be part of your bedroom sex toy box for many years to come.
Clitoris Or Internal?
It is estimated that over 70 per cent of women achieve orgasm by stimulation of the clitoris as opposed to simply penetration, so to help achieve orgasm a clitoral stimulator is a great place to start. Especially when there is so much emphasis placed on clitoral stimulation and how it affects relationships and the emotional bonds between partners. Women also have an area inside the vagina called a G-Spot. The G-spot is also known as the epicentre of pleasure for women. G-Spot Orgasms are said to be more intense than clitoral stimulation and there are many curved vibrators known as G-Spot vibrators around. Finally many women can also achieve orgasm from penetration of the anus. A vibrating butt plug or anal stimulator is often the choice in that scenario.
Take a moment to consider what you like the most during sex. If you like your partner to be stimulating your clitoris and you really enjoy that, then you might want to consider a clitoral style vibrator. If you’re more comfortable with the internal stimulation, then get something that will help in that regard. If you’re unsure, confused or just don’t know – get a vibrator that will do both so that it will help narrow down your future choices.
There are so many varieties and choices available and you can choose one or all to achieve a better and healthier sex life and experience.
Power
One of the first things that you’ll need to consider is just how powerful that you want the vibrations. What is the intensity you wish your vibrator to be at? Power will sometimes make all the difference between achieving orgasm or not – too strong and the sensation will be overwhelming, too weak and you’re not going to feel anything at all. Some women prefer a softer vibration more so than an intense vibration whilst others want a turbo powered sex machine. This is dependent on your sensitivity, age, and sexual history, so if one of your girlfriends is recommending an extraordinarily powerful vibrator, consider what you might like before rushing off the deep end. Some of the more powerful vibrators include the We-Vibe tango, the I-Vibe Rabbit, the Palm Power, and Body Wand.
Noise
The second most important thing that worries people is the noise. Do you have young children, are your walls thin, do you get distracted by noise? Some vibrators are just plain noisy. Especially those with hard plastic casing – if you’re after some soft toys the Fun Factory brand is one of the quietest in the world. If noise is an issue research and read reviews of the different vibrator you like that have been provided for you on this site.
From there, you’ll only need to worry about the noise that you’re making during the use of a vibrator. We recommend using a pillow, a towel or for the more adventurous out there, a ball gag.
Size Matters
Don’t be fooled, the size counts. But maybe not in the way that you’re thinking. Yes, there are some size queens out there, but there are also people that simply cannot handle larger toys. Some women may have retro-verted uteruses and require smaller toys to comfortably achieve orgasm. Others like a larger toy as more area inside the vagina is being stimulated. Others just want a tickler with no penetration whatsoever. Find out what is comfortable for you.
Modes of Vibration
Do you like pulses or do you want a constant buzzing? There are a lot of women out there which just want firm and constant vibrations, whereas there are others who like the tickle and the tease. There are a multitude of options, and today with toys such as the We-vibe 4 Plus which is the number one selling couples sex toy in the world, you even have the ability to customise your own vibration modes with the touch of an app. There is nothing wrong with a simple vibrator that you turn on off or adjust the power but these days there are an increasing amount of people seeking different vibration modes and pulses. These pulses include different sensations and this ensures that each experience is unique and allows you to adjust the mode dependent on your mood, environment or company.
Batteries
Most good quality vibrators offer rechargeable lithium batteries that are contained within the unit. Lithium batteries are a lot more reliable, long lasting and powerful than a lot of other battery options out there. Indeed, We-Vibe will often provide a one year quality guarantee on their vibrators in the event of a battery failure. Gone are the days of having a drawer full of half charged and half powered batteries, now will you have to sneak into the lounge room or media room to steal batteries from the remote. You simply plug it in, charge it up and you’re good to go.
If you want to avoid batteries altogether, toys such as the Body wand, and Palm Power and other sex machines, will plug direction into the mains power and continue working until you turn them off. Or burn them out. Samantha Jones anyone?
Material
Materials play big part in the sensation of a vibrator. For example, hard plastic vibrators often have the strongest vibrations because the plastic doesn’t absorb the vibrations. Silicone vibrators might feel a little weaker, but silicone will warm up easily to the body temperature. What then do we pick?
Silicone:-
Silicone is the most hygienic of sex toy materials. Soft, cushiony with a velvet feel, silicone is renowned for its softness and realism. Silicone can absorb body temperature, hold it and continue staying warm during. One of the greatest benefits of silicone is the safety of the material. Silicone is hypoallergenic and cannot absorb, or retain any bacteria making it one of the safest materials of sex toys on the market. The Mona Wave by Lelo is an example of a silicone toy, however it’s a little different in the sense that whilst it is soft and cushiony, the actual shaft of the toy does not bend, meaning that you can get some great pressure for g-spot stimulation.
Plastic:-
Plastic is often referred to as ABS plastic, and it’s what sex toys have been out of for years. ABS plastic is a tough little plastic that accentuates vibrations and is usually used in very powerful vibrators. ABS plastic can be damaged, and if any cracks or blemishes in the surface appear, then you should consider getting a new sex toy and replacing your old vibrator.
Rubber:-
The use of rubber in sex toys has been long debated. But the industry is changing itself and fixing up the rubber that it used to use. The problem with some of the rubber on the market is that they would often use toxic chemicals, known as phthalates, in the rubber in order to soften it. These chemicals could cause burns, irritations and other nasty side effect when they weren’t wrapped in condoms. The best way to determine if a rubber is unsafe is to touch and smell it. If it gives off a nasty odour, and when you touch the toy and walk away from it, there is a strong odour on your fingertips then that is a warning sign. Consider it this way, if you have walked away from the toy and your finger is still smelling like the toy, what’s happening when you’re using the toy inside you and what is it leaving behind?
Glass and Metal:-
Glass and metal sex toys are very much like silicone, just in a firm and rigid form. Glass and metal cannot absorb any bacteria and they are excellent holders of heat. The fact that they can’t bend is useful for people that like firm pressure, or simply like their sex toys to look like works of art. If you’re worried about the idea that your glass sex toy is going to break, keep this in mind. The borosilicate that is used in the production of these glass dildos will not shatter when dropped onto the floor, if your muscles can clench that tight to give that amount of pressure then maybe you should be reconsidering the idea of having sex at all… In saying that, just like all toys, glass sex toys should be checked before every use to ensure that there are no blemishes, cracks or any other concerns in regards to the surface area, and the internal glass, of the toy.