Issues Reaching Orgasm
One of the most common issues when it comes to women’s sexual health is that 30% of women have never had an orgasm during sexual activity. Reaching orgasm during sexual activity relies on a variety of factors, and it is something which needs to be learned. Just because a woman is seemingly incapable of achieving an orgasm does not equate to an unfulfilling sex life.
It’s also quite common for a woman to experience a period of life where she has a lot of orgasms to a period where she’s not having as many, or that orgasms are absent.
If you find yourself a little concerned about any lack of orgasms, especially if you’ve previously had them – then you might want to try some masturbation or self-stimulation. You above all else will know what feels good, and how to stimulate your genitals and you can then share this information and knowledge with your sexual partner.
While some people might view masturbation as immoral, or unhealthy, it should be noted that masturbation is completely normal and is actually very healthy. Over the years, as sex and sexuality have become less taboo, the idea of masturbation has changed a lot and it is these days considered to be a part of a healthy and active lifestyle. Indeed, there’s a lot less shame about masturbation thanks in part to changing social views and the representation of women and sexuality through popular culture and the changing nature of sex and sexuality.
There are a myriad of ways to self-pleasure with the most common way as being seen as using vibrators and sexual aids specifically for women. Everyone is different and will need different types of stimulation, and it is important to feel comfortable during such times of stimulation. Discovering what works for you, might take a little time and practice but it is an essential part of understanding your body and getting to know and acknowledge what pleases you and turns you on.
There are a number of factors which can affect an ability to orgasm and these are just a small portion of the common causes:
- Medicines such as anti-depressants can limit the sexual response and arousal cycle and make orgasms difficult to achieve.
- There might also be concerns and worries about the engagement of sexual activity with an individual. It might be a new sexual partner, or an old sexual partner. There might have been a bad sexual experience recently, or a traumatic event has been triggered. It’s especially common with new relationships, as a woman might feel uncomfortable engaging with sexual relations with a new partner
- There could also be issues regarding a lack of self-confidence. Especially if there’s been life changes, or physical changes recently, or you have changed sexual partners through divorce death or some other reason. Lack of self-confidence could also relate to body issues and self-esteem is particularly harmful to sexual arousal and response cycles.
- The use of recreational drugs could diminish sensitivity in the body and disrupt sexual pathways responsible for orgasms.
- The consumption of too much alcohol might also affect an individual’s ability to achieve an orgasm
- Vaginal dryness as a result of anxiety, depression, or menopausal changes
- Relationship stress, worries and significant life changes and events might also be responsible for a lack of orgasmic pleasure.
These are just some of the common reasons as to why women might struggle with sexual arousal and an ability to achieve an orgasm. If any of these problems are applicable to you, then it’s important to seek medical advice in order to help you move on from the issue.
Getting Medical Advice:-
If you have any concerns, queries or otherwise in regards to your sexual performance, you should seek medical advice. Especially if any changes have occurred for no obvious reason.
When you go to your medical professional such as you standard GP, Therapist or even gynaecologist, they might ask you several questions about your sex life, sexual history and your medical history. You might be required to undergo certain tests, especially if your doctor is attempting to rule out any medical reasoning’s as to why you’ve suddenly stopped having orgasms, or have had an inability to achieve an orgasm. This might be useful to determine any underlying medical issues that are resulting in the inability to orgasm.
Owing to the idea that there are a lot of possible causes of female sexual dysfunction and an inability to orgasm, it is often exceptionally difficult to offer specific advice. Whilst the use of external stimulation through the use of vibrators might be useful, if it is a relationship issues or as a result of a significant change in life style or as a result of life events, then it can be very difficult to treat. If you’re suffering from depression and have an exceptionally low libido, then it might be considered to be wise to treat the depression before embarking on a mission to correct the sexual dysfunction.
Trying to lead a healthier and happier life might also be beneficial in relation to improving your sexual well-being.
- If you are overweight it might be a consideration to lose weight. Especially if the weight increase is causing self-esteem issues, and body image issues. If you have accepted, acknowledged and embraced who you are then you might not have any concerns in this area which is perfectly alright. What you should consider however is any weight related illnesses that might be affecting your sexual function and performance and these can be evaluated by your health care provider.
- If you regularly take alcohol you might want to consider cutting down. If consumption of alcohol is an issue, then you might want to seek the advice of a health care professional in order to help you with this particular issue
- Using illegal and illicit drugs and substances can also be harmful to sexual health and lifestyle, and it might be wise to consider cutting down your use of illicit substances.
- Smoking can also affect the arousal cycle and sexual response in terms of both orgasms and vaginal dryness. Attempting to cut down, and or quit would e a useful tool in improving your overall health.
- If you’re currently taking any medication for the treatment of anxiety or depression, it is advised that you seek medical advice before cutting your medication as this could have adverse health effects on your mental health.